the masturbation” calls the self-consolation, usually is the individual under not the natural partner participation, satisfies the behavior which needs. According to the Chinese sexology statistical survey, 90% above male will have the masturbation history, the female has not been lower than 60%, although this kind of investigation was very incomplete, because affirmed that some people were not willing saying that but the obvious masturbation in the puberty was a quite universal phenomenon, was also an important question. Can the self-consolation affect after marriage sex life
Zhao Xinpeng 28 years old, has made the girlfriend already 5 years. The parents urge its marriage frequently. Zhao Xinpeng always postpones by all sorts of reasons. When the girlfriend also has doubts why he isn't willing to marry, he reveals one kind of no use worried. As soon as but in on-line amphoteric question consultation column, he spits puzzled finally: Whenever thinks about me soon to marry, in the mind is unable to restrain to float off a cloud of gloom, is ten year masturbation can affect after marriage sex life?
Now, Zhao Xinpeng obtains on-line expert's direction to regard as her misfortune.
Sexology expert advice:
Domestic and foreign has the scholar to think that the masturbation is one kind of normal sex act, the enough evidence had not shown that the masturbation will cause after marriage natural function barrier. Therefore, Mr. Zhao was not unnecessary because of past masturbation history, but was overwhelmed with sorrow. In overseas, some nature medical expert thought that the marriage is terminates the masturbation behavior a stage. Therefore, after the masturbation terminates, how long can sex life this question not exist. May also after the termination crosses the sex life immediately, may also after the long time, when is this decided by you marries.
The self-consolation will catch venereal diseases
Mr. Zhang this year 23 years old, actually had 4 year masturbation history. Afterward he had the girlfriend, some time ago, he had had the sexual relationship with the girlfriend, but after “goes, several then semination”. Mr. Zhang thought that the premature ejaculation is because the masturbation causes, therefore bought many “invigorated the kidney fortifies yang” the drugs to take. Has not brought to completion the matter to this. Soon, on Mr. Zhang glans and penis steadily many white and red small blister, is also not painful does not itch, is only when the urination the urethra has the aching feeling. Mr. Zhang suspected that oneself self-consolation venereal diseases, have then deferred to the telephone pole to govern venereal diseases' adlet to treat secretly, has not seen the change for the better throughout, is very at heart worried.
Sexology expert advice:
May see from Mr. Zhang case, mainly needs to solve the following several problems: First, Mr. Zhang has 4 year masturbation Shi Bing to carry on the back the something weighing on one's mind for this reason; Second, the premature ejaculation and eats “invigorates the kidney” kind of drugs; Third, about unclean sexual intercourse's question.
Masturbation question, although is the platitudes, may have the misunderstanding to it and carry on the back the energetic cross to have plenty of such people for this reason. Actually about this question, the American women produces the expert, sexology expert Ma Si in an article wrote in "Humanity Response": “the masturbation is not a sickness, is also not the counter-moral ignominious behavior, the masturbation is one kind of self-consolation.”The psychological educational world and the judicial world believed that the moderate masturbation may play the cushioning effect to youth's natural crime, may relieve the nature to be hungry temporarily. Sexology expert Du Jinlin studies discovered: Human who the puberty has the masturbation, may maintain the high-frequency the natural activity to reach 35-46 year long time, natural activity ability because of does not give vent reduces, also because of will not preserve enhances. But, the excessive masturbation is not helpfuls but harmful, particularly in the psychology, may have, the despondent mood anxious, even brings the huge pressure. This Mr. Zhang is one of them likely.
About the premature ejaculation, its definition has wide divided opinions, not a strict stipulation. Now everybody comparison recognition's definition is: “the penis not yet enters the vagina, or enters the vagina soon then semination, is the premature ejaculation.”Therefore, this Mr. Zhang situation belongs to the premature ejaculation scope. The premature ejaculation occurrence, the overwhelming majority and the psychological condition concern. Intense, excited, the fear and so on negative natural energetic factor may cause the premature ejaculation. Mr. Zhang and the girlfriend unmarried lives together, in this case has the premature ejaculation is nothing unusual, “invigorates the kidney positive” as for the clothing and so on medicine, is not essential, because and does not have “the deficiency of vitalness of the kidneys”, therefore needs in doctor under the instruction, the attempt psychology reduced pressure.
Finally, about unclean sexual intercourse's question. The unclean sexual intercourse, refers to “the sexual intercourse, not to clean the reproductive organ” before by no means that but refers to “indiscriminates in making friends and finding sexual partners”. Formerly, in the medicine called venereal diseases, refer to venereal diseases which the unclean sexual intercourse (visits a brothel) infects, it including syphilis, gonorrhea, the soft chancre, venereal diseases lymphogranuloma (calls the fourth venereal diseases) and inguen granuloma five kind of diseases.
Mr. Zhang on reproductive organ steadily many small blister, but also has the urethra to stimulate the symptom, suspected that oneself is possible “the nature spread disease”, this cannot draw a conclusion absurdly. Sometimes the feminine easy trouble rosary fungus vaginitis, the infusorium vaginitis and so on, also possibly to pass to the male through the sexual intercourse, causes the above symptom, therefore should go to look for the medical examination, treats just right for the illness.
The young girl self-consolation may send sterile
Liaoning Province some city Liu uses thing and so on plastic banana to carry on the self-consolation frequently, because premature catches the gynecology department disease to the hospital treatment, only then knew already the masturbation has more than 2 years, the parents are startled get angry, for this reason seeks for advice in every way in gynecology department doctor, psychologist, tries hard to confirm whether the masturbation will affect child's birth, how can let the child will say goodbye to this kind “ignominious” the behavior custom.
Sexology expert advice:
The masturbation has the remarkable difference to physical and moral integrity's influence in the sex. Generally speaking, the moderate masturbation speaking of the man does not have what harm; But unmarried woman masturbation, even if is infrequent, also possibly causes the degree different harm, will lead to many kinds of adverse consequences as for frequent and the intense masturbation, what will be most prominent will be causes sterile. Overseas once had to the sterility woman has carried on the review investigation, finally discovered that had the considerable amount woman to have the long time masturbation behavior before the wedding.
The reproductive system infection is one of female masturbation bitter fruits, is also the sterile important root. Unmarried woman vagina defense function still not very perfect, the vagina mucous membrane is quite frail, easy to have the hyperemia dropsy and the mucous membrane damage under the foreign matter stimulation, thus opens the flood gates for the germ invasion. If the masturbation tool health, that change does not have the infection. Such foreign matter masturbation, has the vaginitis, the cervicitis, the womb intimitis as well as the salpingitis unavoidably, serious may also cause the peritonitis, the septicaemia. The relapse inflammatory destruction, the oviduct internal membrane and the myo- level may cause the wound, like the scar forms, the mucous membrane cilium necrosis, will cause oviduct's obstruction and the creeping motion function barrier finally, after marriage may the serious influence egg, sperm's movement and the fertilized egg bed, will cause sterile or the extra-uterine pregnancy. The masturbation unmarried woman, the pelvic cavity ecchymosis syndrome, the painful menstruation and so on gets sick frequently the formation rate is also quite high. The masturbation creates psychological barrier, may also create sterile. Because some females the frequent masturbation, the body suffer from disease, in addition after marriage sex life obtains the ideal effect with difficulty, finally the mental burden is heavy, some people may also have the nature to be desolate, has increased many difficulties for the birth.
In addition, some females are not clear to reproductive organ's position, in the masturbation activity often the urethra by mistake is the vagina. Some hospital once admitted the young woman who acute urine zhu remains, after inspects in the urinary bladder to have the metal foreign matter. Originally, she once used chrome-plating Jin Shubang to insert the urethra to stimulate frequently, at that time only felt comfortable, and satisfies. According to the research, the urethra has certainly certainly “swallows” ability, in addition the feminine urethra is quite short, straight, when takes the masturbation tool with the short foreign matter, the urethra is very easy the foreign matter inspiration urinary bladder. That young woman discovered after Jin Shubang inhales the urethra, the mood is very intense, wants to seek medical help immediately, but is afraid encounters other people ridicule, also after fearing the exposed truth, receives parents' reprimanding, such under cross reaches 1 year long time, until has the acute urine zhu to remain only then can not but on the hospital seek medical help. The uropoiesis department infects and the reproduction is repeatedly the infection may the mutual influence, possibly and forms the vicious circle.
Whether after marriage self-consolation does have disobeys road of the husbands and wives
Ms. Qian and Mr. Zhang marries had three years, two person of sentiments are really sincere, after marriage gives birth a female. After having the daughter, Ms. Qian liked a part from the husband place “the transference” giving the daughter, the work has added on laboriously the housework working hard, caused her to see fainily to the natural desire date. Whenever the husband sends out the sexual affection the signal, she take tired, has not wanted as the reason rejection. At first, Mr. Zhang to look after wife's body, also, for does not affect couple's sentiment and the mood, then forcefully restrains in vivo intermittent nature tumult. But the time, then somewhat has been steadily depressed with loses. Once rests the midnight, Ms. Qian, because must urinate from the sleep wakes, discovers the husband surprisedly in the bedding secretly the masturbation. Regarding this, Ms. Qian is angry very much, when vitality very much worried, worried whether the husband can contract the sexual abnormality, therefore hides the truth from the husband to come the psychological consultation outpatient service.
Sexology expert advice:
Regarding says after youth development period later gentleman, if the natural physiology, the psychology and the natural intention are normal, also has not married, because is in hungry time, therefore, has 2-3 times every month the masturbation, belongs to the normal phenomenon. Generally speaking, after marrying, because had divulges the object, no longer will have the nature to be hungry, therefore, usually after marriage will again not have the masturbation phenomenon to occur, but, this will be merely refers to “the usual situation” saying that does not mean after marrying, definitely will again not have the masturbation. In the following three kind of situations, even if married, also will present the masturbation phenomenon. First, although had married, but the husbands and wives live apart two places, or is lives apart frequently; Second, husbands and wives the sexual desire contrast is too big. The husband sexual desire is exuberant, the wife is indifferent, or suffers from certain gynecology department disease, cannot carry on the husbands and wives to have a sexual intercourse; Some are the wife works busily, the housework is arduous; After having the child, before the wife cannot look like again, “two person of worlds” when such poured into the complete love to the husband, could not but shifts part of energy and the sentiment to the next generation body on.
After marriage has the normal sexual intercourse's gentleman, if the masturbation, to the physical and moral integrity is repeatedly again disadvantageous. Especially to psychological pressure, with unmarried when has the masturbation gentleman is the same. In addition, will also have the possibility to affect the husbands and wives sentiment. Therefore, after marriage do not succumb to the nature. Regarding lives apart frequently two place husbands and wives, should strive for the opportunity, the condition which the creation gathers regularly. Simultaneously the wife must square between the family and the housework, the child and husband's relations, cared mutually, sympathizes.
Do not let the wrong self-consolation way injure you
The masturbation has been puzzling the people particularly development period young people. The traditional ideas censures it is “immoral”, “the abuse”. Most people thought that the masturbation is not a good matter, is only is unable to overcome. But in has not known by heart the world young people moral nature, the masturbation becomes one kind heavily “to take the blame”. They for this reason deeply worried restless, ashamed occurring together, actually hard to speak up, such as losing sleep, the neurasthenia, after marriage function barrier (sexual impotence, cannot semination, nature desolately and so on) the reason, puts the blame on entirely the masturbation. In fact, occasionally the masturbation is the release tense security effective way, but some harmful masturbation way regular session causes the serious consequence.
1st, by foreign matter masturbation: Some people like with the penstock, the hair clip, the plastic silk and so on insertion urethra, desires obtains the pleasant sensation, thus causes when the unintentional situation the foreign matter causes the urethra either the cervix vesical obstruction to be possible to cause the urination difficulty or the urine zhu remains, and the partner uninary system infection, forms the uninary system stone sickness finally. Female when masturbation will stem from the curiosity the fountain pen, the chopsticks, the pit and so on to force in the vagina, if the object will be big time will not be able to take out voluntarily, the time long has been possible to cause the infection, the hemorrhage, the ache.
2nd, wrong masturbation way: The male masturbation's way is quite simple, around basically is the way which adopts rubs, when stimulates after the certain extent the both legs and the whole body muscle start tight, the hand stimulation's rhythm also increases quickly, this friction way and the sexual intercourse spasm are similar. But some men from start time the masturbation then has adopted all sorts of wrong ways, if oppresses backward downward the penis, clamps among two legs, obtains certain pleasant sensation depending on this kind of extrusion, does not rub, also does not pursue the semination high tide. Because adopts this way to obtain the self-stimulation for a long time, finally creates the semination suppression, causes after marriage sex life not to be able semination, thus possibly creates the masculine sterility.
3rd, the nature suffocates: One of abnormal masturbation ways, stimulates voluntarily when often accompanies with each method creates extremely excited, causes the cerebrum oxygen deficit, like this partly is suffocating under the condition to obtain the sexual climax, increases the pleasant sensation degree by this, does not use, when has suffocates the lethal danger.
The amphoteric world, the nature, the sentiment, the love are nourishing the man and the woman, but the masturbation is the natural self-consolation way which one kind does not hurt the essentials, in this sense, is truly one joyful the worrisome private topic.
